True Love Does Not Come From Romantic Relationships, It Comes From Within

Embrace Your Own Affection and Appreciation

Above all decisions you will make in your life Beautiful Ones the most important one will be when you finally decide to commit to loving yourself and to accepting yourself just as you are. How you think of yourself does affect all relationships, affects the quality of your work, your Faith and of course your future. The more positive and loving you are towards yourself, everything else benefits. The question is Beautiful Ones, why is this so difficult for many to do?

So much of you journey thus far has been waiting for love to come to you – many are out searching and feeling empty without this sacredness that is already within you. There are many romanticized concepts regarding love, but many of them refrain from mentioning one important aspect of love and that my dears is having self-respect. Being able to respect yourself is the only definable way to develop love in your own life and with others. We know many dear souls create fantasies out of the feelings they have towards another and many times these fantasies do not fulfill their need to be loved and they end up feeling worse because of the expectations that have been added to the experience. Understand dear ones in order to be loved, it is essential to truly love and respect yourself equally as much as you do others. Make a point to consciously understand the short term and long term effects of loving yourself and this positive change will enhance your ability to love others. By taking positive loving action, you will enable positive and loving energy to enter your life stream that will help to create greater situations to occur. Have faith in the process of learning to love yourself. You have spent so long denying your true self, you have gone out of your way avoiding your own truth and that truth Beautiful Ones is that you are worthy of your own love and respect. By allowing yourself to accept your own love and respect you begin to grow beyond any previous conceived imagination. Understand dear ones, your journey is never for nothing, you have a purpose. The more you learn to love and respect yourself; your purpose becomes that much clearer. End the need to please everyone just so they like you, begin working on liking yourself and bringing that like into Love and Respect.

Relationships That Are Centered on Saving the Other Will Fail - Gratitude for The Other Will Succeed

You decide the value of everything in your life expression. You do so through your focused attention, and your gratitude. The word appreciate means to give thankful recognition, to increase or raise the value, to give favourable evaluation. It is a means of giving the universe your personalized feedback to even better define your unique life expression. Think of it as a sorting process. What you express appreciation for, you are saying you wish to keep and experience more of, what you ignore, you are simply withdrawing your energy from because it is not something you wish to experience more of.
Your gratitude and appreciation are what waters the beautiful flowers of your gardens, and brings more joy and beauty to your life.

Have you ever noticed how delightful your partnerships are when they first begin? They flow, they are accepting, you are filled with the wonder of the other person, and your heart swells with love for them. But, invariably, over time, the “bloom is off the rose” and before you know it, you start arguing and finding the other person’s faults. What happened? How could you go from finding nothing but perfection in the person to barely being able to stand being around them?

 The answer is simple, Dear Ones. You haven’t fallen out of love. You have fallen out of gratitude. If you put yourself on high alert for all the wonderful traits your beloved has and choose to concentrate on and express gratitude for those many aspects that made you fall in love in the first place, you will find yourself falling back in love with your partner and using energies that will help your relationship continue to bloom and grow.

 Some of you say, “Well, he/she doesn’t appreciate me! I’ll be thankful for them if they start to appreciate me.” If you are feeling that way you are missing the point. While it is certainly nice to feel other’s gratitude, and we do encourage you to share it with others because it feels good for everyone involved, it is a tool you use for universal feedback, not a gift you bestow upon others. It is your power tool to help energetically announce and create what you want more of. It is how you choose the energies you wish to live with and experience, and no one else can give that to you. It is from BEing grateful that you will draw to you the gratitude you seek.

 Like everything else, the shifting of energies must come from within in order to have the profound and lasting effect you seek. So celebrate the blessings that are all around you, Dear Ones. It is the easiest way to bring desired flow back into any area of your life.

Surrendering into the flow means committing to operating beyond resistance. Resistance is the cause of physical and emotional discomfort. Therefore, you can also consider surrender and flow to be vital tools for healing.

Freedom, the true freedom your soul craves, comes from embracing who you really are, from living your life according to what is best for you and your unique path, choosing activities that bring you joy, seeing yourself as already having everything you need, and surrounding yourself with people and energies that love, encourage, support and uplift you in all of those areas. By doing so you will continue to shine brightly in your truth, and encourage others to do the same, supporting the energies of acceptance, allowing, and divine self expression, which will only continue to further expand, enhance and beautify not only your life expressions, but your beloved planet, as well.

Dear Ones, it is your natural instinct to love. As a piece of God, love is your source, it is your true state of being. Many of you have been hurt by others and have decided to be guarded with your love, which really only amounts to denying yourself.

 Love! Love because it is your natural state. Love because it feels good to do so. If you have forgotten how to love, or how wonderful it feels to feel love, spend some time with babies, animal or human, and feel your heart open and expand. Take notice of when you are in that love space – you feel absolutely delightful – so present and alive! You feel whole and healthy in all ways.

 Many of you think you will experience the flush of falling in love for a short period of time and after that love becomes work. This is such a limited idea of what love is! Love is what allows you to express your beauty, your light, your essence and is what opens you to experience the entire universe loving you right back.

 So come back to love, Dear Ones, as an element that is just as important to you as the air you breathe, and surrender back into that universal stream of divine connection where you give love, receive love, feel love, BE love, all at the same time.

Many of you deny love because you were hurt by someone you loved. But Dear Ones, don’t you see that it was not love that hurt you? It was the absence of love that hurt you. And yet you deny love as if love were to blame, which only makes you more in line with the very thing that hurt you in the first place. Do you see? Do not give an old, out of alignment experience the power to make you forget your true essence or stop BEing who you really are. Your light, your beauty, your essence, your LOVE, is far too glorious, far too required, to withhold from the world.

Many of you are interested in finding new love relationships that are more in line with who you are energetically. Many of you know what didn’t work for you in the past but are not sure how to choose your next relationship. There are many factors that will indicate whether a relationship will be sustainable over a longer period of time.

 The most important is similar levels of integrity. This is the largest predicator of whether a relationship will last. If you have differing ideas of what is right or wrong, the relationship will eventually fail. Integrity is an indicator of the level of soul growth the person is operating by. If your partner has a far lesser level of integrity, it is a clear indicator that you are not operating from a place of soul resonance. These partnerships are frequently based on “saving” the other, and are doomed to fail.

 Energetic resonance is very important to relationships lasting. You do not have to have the same energetic vibration, but it does need to be harmonious.

 A commitment to growth. If one or both partners in a relationship become resistant to growth over a long period of time, the relationship will fail. Relationships are created to support growth and experience. Should the growth stop, so will the relationship. This does not mean that both need to be learning and growing at the same pace. Often one partner will grow and expand, then the other will. But what it does mean is there needs to be some form of individual growth for each within the relationship. If there is not, the relationship no longer serves a purpose and will break apart.

 The last aspect is gratitude. Truly appreciating and supporting your partner by having gratitude for them and their unique traits and essence is one of the surest ways to ensure your relationship lasts. Think of those wonderful love stories you hear from older humans who have been together for decades. The common thread is that they respected and appreciated their partners, on top of loving them. Gratitude is what gives your love relationships longevity.

 If you start to look at your potential partners through these new filters, Dear Ones, you will very quickly find yourselves with partnerships that will be built on firmer foundations than you have experienced in the past and that honour and celebrate you like never before.

Archangel Gabriel
Channeled by Shelley Young
http://trinity-esoterics.com/

Relationships Inspire Happiness and Peace

Relationships Inspire Happiness and Peace

The world which you live in is constantly changing and evolving and so are your relationships. Many of you have embraced the concept of becoming more in-tune to yourself on a spiritual level and with those you love – you create a bond that is not based on words, but by your actions that are not outrageous, instead your actions demonstrate the intent and the purity of your thoughts in perpetual motion that inspire goodness and unconditional love.

At first, when you enter any relationship you enter it because of a comforting feeling you get while in the other person’s company, you see this new person as someone you can lean on while going through a difficult experience, or just someone you can confide on a personal level with. At first your needs are met on a mental and emotional level because of the deep connection you both made that have a common need that is fulfilled by the development of the relationship. The more time you spend with this new person, regardless if it is a romantic relationship or platonic, the connection made enables you both to unlock the inner potential of this new relationship to blossom from the light and love that is being shared. In order to develop and create a relationship with another you must believe in yourself and have enough faith and trust to step beyond any fears that can rise during any new relationship that is just beginning.

Each person that comes into your life has the potential of being a friend. Nothing is ever by coincidence; all has reason including the creation of friendship and other kinds of relationships. God and other divine beings have been working hard behind the scenes making it possible for certain paths to cross in order to broaden your life experience, to discover deeper meanings of joy and happiness and to gain a new perspective. Sometimes the relationships don’t always work out, but they are always filled with something positive to gain. We know how difficult it can be to see the positive when a relationship didn’t last, but when you are able to look without attaching pain to the experience you are able to see what you learned and gained and how you can apply this newly gained knowledge next time. It is easy to say there will be no next time, but there will always be a next time eventually. All experiences, the good and the bad all come with important life lessons. Without the difficult ones you wouldn’t know how to appreciate the good ones, and happiness would only be wishful thinking instead of actual reality.

Each opportunity and interaction that presents itself to you dear ones is a gift from God. God’s gifts are often subdued hidden within the obvious. Through the gift of developing a relationship you are able to learn so much valuable information about yourself through the sharing you do with the new person that has entered your atmosphere of friends and other dear hearted souls that means a lot to you. With God working through you and with you, you will be able to take the positive changes you have developed from a newly created relationship and apply them in other areas of your life. You become better in-tuned with yourself because you are listening to the vibration of your heart and you learn how to relate to other people in a way that demonstrates peace, love and faith in yourself and for all those that surround you no matter how far they may be. The power of a relationship that is working has the ability of affecting others with the positive energy it emits and you come home to the comforting feeling of your own love that has always existed within yourself to have and to share.

When relationships are budding, understand you are building a foundation that is not about fulfilling your own needs but a combination of fulfilling both of your needs that is equal and essential. The person that comes into your life, is not only there to give you something, they come into your life in the hope of building something together – something with equal opportunities that only help to nurture and grow the relationship into a complete joining of two people that are supportive, able to be sincerely empathetic, they demonstrate hopefulness and creativity in a deep and interconnected way that is purely divine.

When you exemplify empathy, you are willingly extending yourself into the other person’s world, accepting this person’s situation, you are understanding and you never judge or criticize them. You anticipate the relationship with hopefulness, understanding and knowing this person already is a great and they have the potential of becoming even better because of the relationship that is in the works of being created. Relationships require a certain amount of creativity, where energy flows equally together with equal opportunities of giving and receiving.

Remember dear ones you are the creators of your life. By meeting each relationship as equals, you are also able to discover more of yourself at an inner and more personal level; the wisdom of your heart is able to shine through your actions as love and compassion that each person in any relationship deserves. When you help to create with another dear soul, you are potentially able to bring forth powerful changes that not only benefit you and the one you have connected with, but you bring these great changes to others by the upliftment of your own energies working as a combined force of goodness and love. When you demonstrate love for yourself and for others willingly and consciously you are able to see the goodness in ALL people, and gain so much joy when you recognize you are living in harmony with those around you.

When you are able to view the spiritual nature of your relationships – to see them from a deeper perspective, you are able to bring yourself into new heights of understanding and awareness that may have not been present before. New relationships that are just budding allow you to view certain qualities of yourself that you allow you the opportunity to make certain changes by ridding yourself of old attachments that would only weigh your new relationship down and accepting the Love from God that fills your whole self; mind, body, soul and heart with his endearing light that empowers you to greet new people and new relationships with your real and authentic self. Remember because you are the creators of your journey, all unions made with another person are created out of choice, any amount of time that is spent together is a combination of both people making the choice to offer and accept – to come to a workable conclusion that continues to inspire happiness and peace.

Any time you are able to view your relationships with a spiritual outlook you are able to see the truth in the divine creation of their existence. Even if a relationship only stayed for a short time, there is something of value to gain. It requires great trust to build any relationship as trust is like the glue of both mind and heart working together within the power of hope between two people. When you apply faith on the development of your relationship you are exercising that you are willing to follow your heart to what is real.

When you are connected with another, you develop a deeper knowing of what is right and good within yourself that is demonstrated by your words, actions, feelings, thoughts and will. Your inner knowing has the ability to bring change to any relationship and to your own life because your inner knowing brings change to how you think of yourself and how you see the world as a whole interconnected cosmic reality. Trusting your inner knowing allows you to move past any doubts your ego may create into the path of belief and certainty. Knowing each relationship is created out of Divine Love helps to eradicate negativity and promotes peaceful compassion and hope for the future of your relationship.

There are many among you dear ones who fear the creation of relationships because they fear of the potential of being hurt and/or disappointed. But when they say no to a relationship they are also saying no the possible personal and spiritual growth and development of themselves – to be able connect with another and see the world through their eyes. Relationships help you to understand more of yourself. We understand the difficulty and the uncertainty that can be felt when a new relationship holds a promising potential, we encourage you dear ones to move past this fear, discover the courage that is found within your beautiful heart and step forward, one step at a time, even if your steps are baby steps. Reduce your expectations and enjoy the collaboration of energy that occurs when you meld with another. Have faith dear ones in the journey you are on and trust where your heart is leading you. God wants you to be happy and for you to have a wonderfully peaceful life – but you have to want it as well, and we all know if you want something bad enough you will do all you can to bring forth a successful outcome.

I AM Ascended Master, El Morya through Julie Miller

Ascended Master, El Morya’s Weekly Message ~ October 08 – 15, 2013
Received by Julie Miller
October 08, 2013

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