Be Confident With Yourself
Be truthful when you answer, are you one who tends to
worry about what others think of you regardless if their opinions are based on
your appearance or of how you think? Worrying about what other people think of
you carries unpleasant energy that can produce equally unpleasant thoughts and
negative self-talk. We witness often dear souls trying to meet strangers approval
on how they dress, on how they conduct their life choices from the rumours they
hear and they themselves help to create a negative cycle that attracts more
harm than good until an overwhelming power from within comes forward that will
end that depreciative cycle and the negative energy gets replaces for uplifting
light energy.
Anytime you perceive that you are being judged, most
times you truly are not. As humans, you tend to over-think and over analyze
every single interaction and experience that comes into contact with you. Many
times you may not be aware of this occurring because analyzing others seems to
happen all on its own, you take in any flaws or imperfections that person may
have on the outside without considering any goodness that may be underneath.
Become a quick observer and recognize when you begin to over-think any
situation. This is a self-abusive pattern and only you can end it. Purposely
give yourself credit and compliments for any part of your personality that you
like, and what you know is not perfect accept this as homework. How your outer
appearance is viewed does not reflect your inner beauty or goodness. It’s what
is on the inside that is most recognizable and memorable.
Build up your self-esteem by thinking good thoughts of
yourself more often and pay attention to the smaller details. If you have
become used to thinking negative, you know then this is a learned habit and as
with all habits they can be changed and broken by the conscious effort of your
Will in Action. Remember even the people or things that you consider to be
perfect also carry imperfections. Not one person or thing is perfect, there is
always a drawback or a flaw to be found, but to us and what we encourage you to
see is not their imperfections but of the beauty that is there that is more
than physical. Always put your best foot forward without trying to undermine or
underperform yourself, accept that right now you are the best you can be.
Tomorrow is another day, keep your attention to the here and now and love what
you see and not what your Ego has been trying to get you to conform to.
When you worry too much about what others think, your own
perception is clouded and small issues are often tightly scrutinized and even
with such close up of trying to find fault, you are unable to see the good
because you are expecting to see something that truly is not there. Create a
new habit dear ones but looking at the big picture of your journey without the
worry of what other people think. Know what you know well, since the path you
are on is yours nobody else’s. Don’t allow what other people think control or
hinder your development and enjoyment life has to offer you.
Make a list of what you are currently grateful for and
work on this list once a day and watch it grow. When you go back later to see
what you have added, you come to realize there is much in your life that is
tangible and worthy of your gratitude. You have your health, family, trusted
friends, intelligence, etc., through what you are able to honestly see without
the viewpoint of others you will discover all that you do have and not worry
about what you don’t. Appreciate dear ones all that you have achieved knowing
full well there is more coming your way.
Many dear souls focus on the big things because they are
what is easiest to be seen. We encourage you to find delight in the small
things and see beauty thriving all around you. Beauty comes in many guises,
from children playing with their pets, watching a seedling begin to stretch
skyward, the sun streaming through the trees on an early winter morn, the
examples are endless but we are positive you understand beauty is with you each
and every day and none of it has to do with pretty clothes, styled hair, make
up, or forced conformity. The eagle that soars above in the sky has no worry or
care if you think it’s beautiful, it does not worry that it’s beautiful, it
simply flies, it hunts and does what eagles do best.
In order to end the need to please others with your
appearance you need to become more confident with yourself through
accomplishments you have achieved. Stop second guessing yourself – every time
you second guess or doubt yourself you are allowing your Ego to choose what is
best for you when it is your heart that brings you to what is best and of the
highest of good because your heart is filled with goodness and love and where
there is love the Ego cannot reside. The more you accustom yourself to
following the direction of your heart and by making your own decisions based on
where you wish to go rather than what someone else thinks you will raise your
confidence and find how much more satisfying your journey becomes.
Too many times we observe so many dear souls pre-judging
themselves because they expect others to deliver judgments, opinions and other
viewpoints. Your thoughts are very powerful. Instead of expecting that someone
will say or do anything because of your appearance give yourself a smile, and
smile at the dear souls whom you assume are going to judge you based on your
appearance. Smiling helps to enhance your self-esteem and it illustrates to
others that you are confident in your appearance and most importantly with
yourself. Most people that are smiled to before speaking to them will return
the gesture and your interaction becomes much more enjoyable and any stress
that was threatening dissolves.
When interacting with others, there is always the
potential of not being understood. When you know you are going to share
something, an insight or idea don’t think that it’s going to fail before you
mutter a single word, envision success from the discussion or interaction
instead and find ways that will help you deliver what you wish to say and share
successfully and with confidence.
Emotions and feelings can lead you to feeling you are on
a never-ending rollercoaster if they are permitted to run rampant. When you are
constantly worrying about what another person thinks of you and of your
appearance, this only intensifies your feelings and oftentimes brings about
even greater emotions that create fear, prevent happiness and bring more stress
into your already busy day. It’s important to be aware of any emotion that is
moving through you. Recognize what this emotion is and see it as being separate
from you so that it’s not an actual part of you and slowly watch this emotion
dissolve into nothingness. The moment you consciously observe an emotion dear
ones you become separated from it and if it’s no longer connected to you, it no
longer exists.
What seems to be the hardest for most dear souls is the
acceptance of themselves. Because so many dear souls are so obsessed about how
they look in order to appeal to another person’s approval they forget that the
most important approval does not come from any one person, but from themselves.
Accept yourself for exactly who you are, how you look and where you are on your
journey. If there are things that you, not another person thinks needs to be
changed, then it is you that must discover ways to make what needs to be
improved a success. Don’t complain about what you don’t like, instead do
something about it. If what you don’t like about yourself is fixable then fix
it your way with your own influence and power. If you come across something you
cannot altar then remind yourself what you cannot change could always be worse
and that there are dear souls in the world right now facing worse physical
conditions. Learn to realize that some of the things you tend to worry about
are really, truthfully not important but you made them important through
negative self-talk and negative thought forms.
We encourage each of you to access more often your Inner
Self, not your outer person. Don’t give so much power to your appearance that
it takes away from your actual beauty and self-worth. It is your Inner Self,
the beautiful divine spirit that resides within your precious heart that holds
the true beauty of your true self. It is this beauty, this simple unadorned
preciousness of your truest form of self that God sees.
There are great spiritual implications if a dear soul
obsesses over their outward appearance which prevents them from seeing the real
beauty of their authentic nature because they are too busy collecting
fast-paced gadgets and what people think of them. Your life does not truly
become richer simply because you have accumulated many material items – they do
not take into account the purity of your soul that lives through all you do
alongside your heart in all actions. They are just things; you are real, filled
with endless opportunities to grow, to develop and to become all that you are
meant to.
It is up to you dear ones how your journey will progress,
it always has been. End the action of giving your power to others through your
need to please them with your appearance or to dictate how your life should go.
Appreciate their suggestions with kindness and love, but remember this is your
journey. Even if your choices brings you to choices that produce what you
consider to be a mistake, this choice holds your power and provides you with
the opportunity and potential to learn what to change in order to produce a
different outcome. Be confident with who you are on the inside and allow this
strength of inner character shine glowingly on the outside. You are your own
person as you cannot be any other.
And so it is…
I Am Archeia Lady Radiant through Julie Miller
Message from Archeia Lady Radiant
Received by Julie Miller
October 30, 2013
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