Don't Give Up Your Power To Others Through Your Need To Please

Be Confident With Yourself

Be truthful when you answer, are you one who tends to worry about what others think of you regardless if their opinions are based on your appearance or of how you think? Worrying about what other people think of you carries unpleasant energy that can produce equally unpleasant thoughts and negative self-talk. We witness often dear souls trying to meet strangers approval on how they dress, on how they conduct their life choices from the rumours they hear and they themselves help to create a negative cycle that attracts more harm than good until an overwhelming power from within comes forward that will end that depreciative cycle and the negative energy gets replaces for uplifting light energy.

Anytime you perceive that you are being judged, most times you truly are not. As humans, you tend to over-think and over analyze every single interaction and experience that comes into contact with you. Many times you may not be aware of this occurring because analyzing others seems to happen all on its own, you take in any flaws or imperfections that person may have on the outside without considering any goodness that may be underneath. Become a quick observer and recognize when you begin to over-think any situation. This is a self-abusive pattern and only you can end it. Purposely give yourself credit and compliments for any part of your personality that you like, and what you know is not perfect accept this as homework. How your outer appearance is viewed does not reflect your inner beauty or goodness. It’s what is on the inside that is most recognizable and memorable.

Build up your self-esteem by thinking good thoughts of yourself more often and pay attention to the smaller details. If you have become used to thinking negative, you know then this is a learned habit and as with all habits they can be changed and broken by the conscious effort of your Will in Action. Remember even the people or things that you consider to be perfect also carry imperfections. Not one person or thing is perfect, there is always a drawback or a flaw to be found, but to us and what we encourage you to see is not their imperfections but of the beauty that is there that is more than physical. Always put your best foot forward without trying to undermine or underperform yourself, accept that right now you are the best you can be. Tomorrow is another day, keep your attention to the here and now and love what you see and not what your Ego has been trying to get you to conform to.

When you worry too much about what others think, your own perception is clouded and small issues are often tightly scrutinized and even with such close up of trying to find fault, you are unable to see the good because you are expecting to see something that truly is not there. Create a new habit dear ones but looking at the big picture of your journey without the worry of what other people think. Know what you know well, since the path you are on is yours nobody else’s. Don’t allow what other people think control or hinder your development and enjoyment life has to offer you.

Make a list of what you are currently grateful for and work on this list once a day and watch it grow. When you go back later to see what you have added, you come to realize there is much in your life that is tangible and worthy of your gratitude. You have your health, family, trusted friends, intelligence, etc., through what you are able to honestly see without the viewpoint of others you will discover all that you do have and not worry about what you don’t. Appreciate dear ones all that you have achieved knowing full well there is more coming your way.

Many dear souls focus on the big things because they are what is easiest to be seen. We encourage you to find delight in the small things and see beauty thriving all around you. Beauty comes in many guises, from children playing with their pets, watching a seedling begin to stretch skyward, the sun streaming through the trees on an early winter morn, the examples are endless but we are positive you understand beauty is with you each and every day and none of it has to do with pretty clothes, styled hair, make up, or forced conformity. The eagle that soars above in the sky has no worry or care if you think it’s beautiful, it does not worry that it’s beautiful, it simply flies, it hunts and does what eagles do best.

In order to end the need to please others with your appearance you need to become more confident with yourself through accomplishments you have achieved. Stop second guessing yourself – every time you second guess or doubt yourself you are allowing your Ego to choose what is best for you when it is your heart that brings you to what is best and of the highest of good because your heart is filled with goodness and love and where there is love the Ego cannot reside. The more you accustom yourself to following the direction of your heart and by making your own decisions based on where you wish to go rather than what someone else thinks you will raise your confidence and find how much more satisfying your journey becomes.

Too many times we observe so many dear souls pre-judging themselves because they expect others to deliver judgments, opinions and other viewpoints. Your thoughts are very powerful. Instead of expecting that someone will say or do anything because of your appearance give yourself a smile, and smile at the dear souls whom you assume are going to judge you based on your appearance. Smiling helps to enhance your self-esteem and it illustrates to others that you are confident in your appearance and most importantly with yourself. Most people that are smiled to before speaking to them will return the gesture and your interaction becomes much more enjoyable and any stress that was threatening dissolves.

When interacting with others, there is always the potential of not being understood. When you know you are going to share something, an insight or idea don’t think that it’s going to fail before you mutter a single word, envision success from the discussion or interaction instead and find ways that will help you deliver what you wish to say and share successfully and with confidence.

Emotions and feelings can lead you to feeling you are on a never-ending rollercoaster if they are permitted to run rampant. When you are constantly worrying about what another person thinks of you and of your appearance, this only intensifies your feelings and oftentimes brings about even greater emotions that create fear, prevent happiness and bring more stress into your already busy day. It’s important to be aware of any emotion that is moving through you. Recognize what this emotion is and see it as being separate from you so that it’s not an actual part of you and slowly watch this emotion dissolve into nothingness. The moment you consciously observe an emotion dear ones you become separated from it and if it’s no longer connected to you, it no longer exists.

What seems to be the hardest for most dear souls is the acceptance of themselves. Because so many dear souls are so obsessed about how they look in order to appeal to another person’s approval they forget that the most important approval does not come from any one person, but from themselves. Accept yourself for exactly who you are, how you look and where you are on your journey. If there are things that you, not another person thinks needs to be changed, then it is you that must discover ways to make what needs to be improved a success. Don’t complain about what you don’t like, instead do something about it. If what you don’t like about yourself is fixable then fix it your way with your own influence and power. If you come across something you cannot altar then remind yourself what you cannot change could always be worse and that there are dear souls in the world right now facing worse physical conditions. Learn to realize that some of the things you tend to worry about are really, truthfully not important but you made them important through negative self-talk and negative thought forms.

We encourage each of you to access more often your Inner Self, not your outer person. Don’t give so much power to your appearance that it takes away from your actual beauty and self-worth. It is your Inner Self, the beautiful divine spirit that resides within your precious heart that holds the true beauty of your true self. It is this beauty, this simple unadorned preciousness of your truest form of self that God sees.

There are great spiritual implications if a dear soul obsesses over their outward appearance which prevents them from seeing the real beauty of their authentic nature because they are too busy collecting fast-paced gadgets and what people think of them. Your life does not truly become richer simply because you have accumulated many material items – they do not take into account the purity of your soul that lives through all you do alongside your heart in all actions. They are just things; you are real, filled with endless opportunities to grow, to develop and to become all that you are meant to.

It is up to you dear ones how your journey will progress, it always has been. End the action of giving your power to others through your need to please them with your appearance or to dictate how your life should go. Appreciate their suggestions with kindness and love, but remember this is your journey. Even if your choices brings you to choices that produce what you consider to be a mistake, this choice holds your power and provides you with the opportunity and potential to learn what to change in order to produce a different outcome. Be confident with who you are on the inside and allow this strength of inner character shine glowingly on the outside. You are your own person as you cannot be any other.

And so it is…

I Am Archeia Lady Radiant through Julie Miller

 

Message from Archeia Lady Radiant

Received by Julie Miller

October 30, 2013

 

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Discipline - A Teacher of Accountability, Consideration, Freedom, Liberation, and Positive Energy

DISCIPLINE AS AN ESSENTIAL SKILL

Discipline is an important ingredient to your spiritual development and personal growth. Even though there are many among you that are aware of this concept, fewer understand its purpose and that it is required to be a part of your life every day, not just when you feel like it if you want to succeed and progress. If you look closely at those that are most successful, you will see behind their story that discipline and focus was an important asset to their journey, and discipline dear ones is vital to all that you set out to do and to accomplish.

In order to lead others, the leader, teacher, instructor, etc., must be able to demonstrate great restraint, tolerance and patience – this takes daily practice of working with your inner most feelings, learning to let go of what is not really important and focusing on what is that will lead to the further development of your strength. Anyone who has dieted, tried to end a debilitating habit, began a new project or task understands how easy it is to be distracted and that it takes great strength to remain firm and on target. It does get easier with practice and with practice your confidence also rises which helps to promote what it is you are trying to achieve that is positive and good.

You can have all the movement you want dear ones, but unless you bring in discipline to hone your skill, what you demonstrate will be erratic; there will be no smoothness or direction. Take a look at the most influential athletes, you will learn they follow certain rules and regulations and you will also see they train not only their physical bodies, but work on their self from the inside by making healthy choices because they have a goal in their mind and their focus is sharp. This does not mean mistakes cannot happen to those that are firmly disciplined, it just means when errors occur, they are already in-tune to what is occurring and know quickly how to proceed to make the appropriate corrections that will bring about better results next time.

It is well understood dear ones that when you enable discipline as one of the tools to your success you are also bringing in stability and a firmer foundation to your whole life. Discipline has a way to teach and instruct you to become more responsible for the choices you make and to respect what you have chosen without ridicule or harsh judgements. Understand that if there was absolutely no discipline the world would be in even deeper chaos than what is going on now – every single person would do what they wanted, without being accountable for any harm possibly being done; it would a world devoid of compassion, respect and love. Fortunately when you add discipline you are showing consideration, you are promoting good and God-Loving behaviour that makes life a lot more enjoyable for you and those closest to you.

When you consciously demonstrate discipline and self-restraint you are illustrating to those around you that you have control of your Self because you comprehend that without control of your mental and emotional faculties that disaster can result and we understand you are aiming for favourable outcomes from any and all situations you are currently working through. Mental toughness may seem difficult dear ones, but truly it isn’t. Becoming more disciplined does require a certain amount of sacrifice, but the rewards are always worth the effort. If you only put in partial energy into a task, then your outcome will be incomplete – less than what you truly wanted to achieve. When you commit with discipline, and you apply this skill in each step, your outcome will be that much greater. Focus is a key player dear ones in determining a successful outcome. Learning to stay on track and not to deviate from your goal takes great strength and determination, but nothing is every impossible when you wish to achieve something enough.

Becoming more disciplined is not an entrapment to hinder your growth, it’s actually freedom from lethargy and slothfulness, it also brings liberation from astronomical demands and expectations of others; becoming more disciplined will help to dissolve fear and bring you into understanding that your path will lead you to new and unexplored areas for your discovery pleasure and it’s okay to step forward gleaning all you can in order to attain more knowledge and apply this information as wisdom once you have absorbed it through daily application and understanding.

Under the positive influence of self-discipline and restraint you will be able to come home to your own individuality and discover your strength within the goals you have set out for yourself to accomplish. You are no longer a slave to something; you become master of that particular skill. Learning how to see your journey with a positive mind-set that is disciplined will provide you with incredible inside information of your Self. Only you can bring this knowledge to the surface, and we are confident that with patience, tolerance and time you will come to know every part of yourself with the understanding every day will bring new and exciting possibilities for you to learn and grow from.

There are many among you that don’t follow the understanding of discipline being a form of freedom that is because for some folks, discipline is merely a word that means they must work harder without freedom. Have you ever tried to learn a new language, possibly from having to move from your birth country? The discipline required to learn the verbs, nouns, how to make sentences and to converse requires a great amount of hard work, but in the end the person learning the new language can communicate effectively and through the ability to communicate new knowledge is able to be gained and life continues to bring new joy, love and consideration along the way. Sometimes dear ones, hard work doesn’t bring rewards at the end of the day, sometimes your efforts accumulate and over time they create something big and fantastic. Be steadfast in your efforts, focus on what you wish to achieve with all your heart and soul and you will succeed. Challenges will always present themselves and learning how to deal with them effectively and efficiently will help speed up the process and continue the flow of positive energy.

Comprehend dear ones that working more disciplined and restrained your actions are in accordance to what you are thinking rather than what you are feeling. When you are on the path of bringing change into your life through dieting, overcoming a unhealthy habit or something of a similar nature you may be tempted to want what you know is not good for your body, when you make an alternative decision that is healthy and equally satisfying you are staying true to your goal and not promoting the feeling of guilt that often comes after indulging in a temptation that you were trying to avoid.

Understandably dear ones, your modern world is filled to the brim with temptations even if you are not dieting or trying to end an unhealthy habit. Bringing in change always comes with obstacles and challenges and for each person they will be different. We know it can be difficult to stay on track and to maintain your focus but think ahead dear ones and envision how it will feel when you are done – imagine your success and how good it will feel that you stuck with it until the very end. We know instant gratification leads to instant pleasure but then it flees and is gone, leaving you with wanting more soon after. Discipline is crucial to your journey as an essential skill as it provides you with different options depending on the choices you are about to make that will bring you to your goal. When you have everything under control and are moving forward with every effort to accomplish what you set out to reach, you have also given yourself complete authority to take on any challenge and overcome it because you are confident and know where you are going with or without the hindering ability that some challenges come with.

It is understood dear ones that discipline is a skill that can be strengthened at any time when you put your mind to it. If you are going to make a promise to yourself or to another dear soul, make sure you come through and keep your promise. Learn to align your actions with your thoughts and exercise your mind and body into better shape. When seen objectively and with a positive mind-set, you will be able to see even while practicing discipline and self-restraint life can still be enjoyable. It’s important to find a healthy balance between your work and leisure.

Becoming more balanced can be a struggle for some dear souls, but with daily work and effort, little by little this skill can and will become improved because your goals and dreams depend on you growing a strong will and unwavering determination. Regardless how you may feel some days, discipline reminds you that perseverance brings you to what is good for you and to the outcome you have been looking forward to.

Learn to understand the enemies of discipline and how to maneuver around them. Certain pleasures and desires can be powerful and can easily derail you from your goal. When you are hit with difficult situations, or doubt has crept in, this is when the outcome to your goal becomes harder to see and you need to focus a little harder to get through the doubt that has clouded your vision. You will find a focal point that will help to prevent you from being too distracted by the many temptations that have the potential of bringing your goal to a halt or to becoming incomplete. The focal point you choose that will help you to stay strong will help you remember what it is you are working so hard to accomplish; it could be your child, your partner, maybe a promotion or a move to a new neighbourhood. We know within you, the Will that has always been there can be made stronger. Having stronger discipline and more restraint will improve your life and give your journey an enormous advantage – remember discipline is the connection to your goals becoming accomplished.

I AM Ascended Master, Serapis Bey through Julie Miller

Ascended Master, Serapis Bey’s Weekly Message ~ October 18 – 25, 2013
Received by Julie Miller
October 18, 2013

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