Melchizedek:
Learning through Contemplation
When your day is busy and you occasionally face various
daily challenges, we know and understand it can be far too easy to become
focused on the negative. You may find yourself feeling overworked,
under-appreciated, tired and stressed out by all the many conflicting demands
on your time and day. What often occurs as a result dear ones, is that negative
thoughts and feelings come into your mind. Even though you already know
positive thinking is the better alterative for your state of mind, it is also
understood that positive thinking is also good for your overall health. Every
time you make the motions to improve your thinking and to bring forth more
positive thoughts and feelings you are also improving your confidence and
mental well-being which will give a marvelous boost to your physical health.
Have you ever contemplated what can you do to get rid of
negative thoughts and to replace them with a better and more positive attitude
and way of thinking? You don’t have to be a natural-born optimist in order to bring
positive changes to the way you think and view life. There are actual things
you can do each day that will help to develop positive thinking as a skill that
provides many rewarding and healing benefits.
To become a positive thinker, it’s essential to learn how
to effectively analyze your thoughts. There is a stream of conscious flow of
thoughts that can be a bit difficult to focus on, especially if introspection
or contemplation on your own thoughts and feelings is not your strongest
practice. We encourage you to try noticing how you think during a challenging
situation; think about what is happening. Are you observing negative self-talk?
Or are mentally judging and criticizing yourself or other people? Understand
dear ones, negative thinking does present a foremost obstacle, yet your ability
to identify these thoughts is one of your first steps in overcoming them.
Usually it is the most common types of negative thinking
that takes place, the unwelcomed aspects of a challenge or situation. Try to
think about an experience you’ve had where you were busy either at work or
working on a project at home. And you have to hand over this work or project to
another once the job is done. Everything is going great and while you were
working either at work or on the project you also were able to accomplish a few
other tasks as well. But there was one thing that you forgot to do, it could
have as easily been that you forgot to return a message, a phone call, or maybe
you forgot something else that you said you would do. Even though you handed
your work in and completed your project and a few other tasks successfully, the
things you didn’t get to do or complete will often play heavy on your mind. You
may even find yourself thinking deeply about any of the errors you may have had
or of the phone call you forgot to return. Instead of focusing and
acknowledging on the positives that you were able to accomplish, you find
yourself focusing on what you couldn’t accomplish.
Another kind of negative thinking is self-blame. How many
times have you blamed yourself for something that was not entirely your fault?
If you work at one of the many call centers around the world, maybe you would
blame yourself if the amount of sales or calls were low for the current month
instead of thinking that the lack of calls has a lot to do with the economy and
people’s financial stability. Self-blame is found in many other situations, not
just work related incidents. In addition, self-blame is considerably damaging
to your mental and emotional health. When you take the blame for things that
are not your fault, things that are out of your control, understand your
self-confidence and self-esteem becomes drastically lowered.
Yes, dear ones changing your negative thoughts can
definitely be a challenge and understand when its time to make such changes
this is a process that will take time. As you move along this path of
self-improvement it is essential to understand that repeating certain
affirmations, even if they are positive are not going to help you until you
have reached a better grasp of your thinking process and you have begun to
think in a much more positive fashion. Comprehend dear ones that changing your
thoughts is not like putting on rose-coloured glasses, where things become
muted and the truth becomes distorted. To ignore the negatives and to just work
on certain areas because they are easier can be devastatingly damaging. It is
vital to your growth and development to have a healthy balance, to be able to
focus on both; the positive and negative encounters of life.
There are many things you can do that will help diminish
the overwhelming feelings that are often associated with negative thoughts. We
encourage you to begin with small steps. You can’t really jump in, taking big
huge steps and leaps simply because this is a fragile moment in your life, you
are here trying to put together a new habit, a new way of thinking that will
bring about a new way of being. Just like anyone who has tried to break or
change a habit or behaviour, it takes time to reach a successful outcome or to
keep a resolution you’ve made to yourself. Remember change takes time.
Reflection is essential as it provides you with a lot of
information regarding key areas in your life that are mostly affected or even
cause negative thinking. Do you tend to think negatively when you are preparing
for the day; is it in your appearance, or something else that is just as
personal? Do negative feelings come about as you get closer to work? It is
important dear ones to pinpoint where your negative feelings come from, before
you can bring in changes. Once you are able to figure out at least one area
where negative thoughts develop, then begin bringing in one or two new changes
that is positive that you are able to stick to longer than a few days. Don’t
try to change too much too soon, work slowly with one area at a time. And as
you move through the process of change don’t be so hard on yourself, give
yourself the love and compassion you truly deserve. This is a great time to get
to know yourself from the inside.
Maybe you are going to focus on your negative thinking
with regards to your job. What you can do is spend some time each day analyzing
your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking critically or being judgmental
about yourself or someone else, take a few moments to reflect on this. Are you
mentally berating yourself or someone else, if so find out why? As you look at
the situation before you, can you think of one thing that could make the
situation a bit more positive? Remember it doesn’t have to be grand; it just
has to be better and more positive. In every situation where there is something
negative, there is also something positive to be found, it just might take a
little digging.
Become more observant of negative self-talk. We know you
have an awful amount of inner dialogue and not all of it is nice and loving.
When your inner monologue begins to give you suggestions or discouragements
that you will never reach successful outcomes on any particular assignment or
task, then that is a time dear ones for you to take the initiative to find a
more positive approach that will also help you create a more positive view of
any situation. You might need to rearrange your schedule to slot in more time,
or find a different yet creative way that brings you to a successful
conclusion, or you might need to ask for assistance from a co-worker. Asking
for a little help or advice is not a bad thing dear ones. Sometimes it is
necessary to seek help and it’s never a sign of weakness or vulnerability.
Being able to ask for help is a sign of strength and trust in yourself.
Try to remind yourself that being a positive thinker is
not about you ignoring certain aspects of life in favour of aspiring thoughts.
It really is more about taking a positive, proactive approach to your life. You
do have the choice to remain feeling hopeless and overwhelmed but you also have
the choice to tackle your negative thinking and to bring positive changes that
will help you to resolve conflicts, help raise your self-confidence and self-esteem
as well improve your mental and physical health. There are always effective and
creative solutions to problems; it’s never just one way unless you choose that
way. Yes it will take practice and a lot of it. Comprehend that improving your
thinking is not just a step-by-step process that in a few days you are done.
This area of self-improvement does require a life long commitment from you. You
need to be ready, willing and able to look inside yourself and challenge those
negative thoughts and when you apply love dear ones with your efforts you will
make positive changes. We believe you can bring about all the positive changes
needed to change your thinking and way of living, what is needed now dear ones
is for you to believe as well.
I AM Melchizedek through Julie Miller
Melchizedek’s Weekly Message ~ April 27 – May 04, 2014
Received by Julie Miller
April 27, 2014
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