Give Yourself the Love You Deserve
Doubt has a way of creeping into your head just when you
are about to step forward doing a task that requires a certain amount of effort
and focus, and the words you may hear, “You can’t do it” is heard. The fear of
failing what you are working hard to complete begins to eat away at your
confidence and faith in your own abilities. Taunting words always seem to
arrive out of nowhere, creating a lot of havoc within your mental and emotional
faculties. No matter what your goal is, when these taunting words come, they
get stronger and more controlling and before you know it you begin to think
critically of your own efforts and potential of not completing a certain task.
Beautiful Ones, you really do know you mustn’t allow these self-doubt lingering
and sabotaging thoughts to bother you as much as they do. You have many
barriers in place to protect yourself, yet still self-doubt is able to wiggle
its way in.
Remember where your doubt comes from, it is part of the
Ego, it the part that uses your fears against you, trying to control the
situation and to prevent you from moving forward successfully. When self-doubt
gets a good hold on you, it can be very greedy. It tackles your confidence,
removes good logic and your ability to reason. Before you know it the greedy self-doubt
has replaced your happiness with fear and the overwhelming feeling of
insecurity.
Overcoming self-doubt can be quite a challenge. We know
Beautiful Ones you try forcing self-doubt out with positive thoughts and they
seem to work on the surface, but underneath self-doubt is still there lying in
wait. It is a hard fight against your self-doubt and many times it leaves you
weakened and you give in to its hungry pull. There is a way out, there always
is. By attaining more self-knowledge and deeper understanding of yourself and
the world around you, you begin to shrink self-doubt and take back the power it
took from you and your confidence and faith in yourself begins to rise to
healthy levels once again. Learn to use self-doubt for your own advantage.
It’s important Beautiful Ones to be aware of when your
own self-talk has taken a doubtful detour. As soon as you hear the words enter
your thought forms, “I can’t” or “What if”, take these as formidable warnings.
Instead of believing in the possibility that you cannot successfully complete
the task you set out to do, or that a conclusion to a certain situation is
guaranteed to fail before you even try to see it through, remind yourself you
ARE working on each step, tell yourself you WILL keep trying and you WILL
bravely continue to move forward because your know in your heart you must give
yourself the chance to try.
Besides becoming more knowledgeable of your Self through
self-awareness and other wonderful methods that bring deep understanding about
you and the world around you, one of the best ways to decrease your amount of
self-doubt is by removing yourself from people that are toxic. The thought
patterns of toxic-like people is everything is impossible, success is not a
possibility and they are always quick to burst your bubble or shoot down
anyone’s positive ideas and motivations. A person with toxic energy will take
your beautiful Light-filled energy and replace that natural goodness with the
feeling of hopelessness if you allow this kind of theft to occur. Take a
positive step in your journey and in your life. Surround yourself with positive
people that are genuinely loving and supportive, people that can and do inspire
you and they always leave you feeling good about yourself, like you are
important because Beautiful Ones, you are important. Let these positive minded
folks lift your spirits so you can see the brighter side of your life and your
journey without any fear our doubt.
When self-doubt has started to work on you, instead of
thinking of other bad times, bring into your memory of times where you were
confident, filled with great self-esteem and faith in your abilities. Make
mental notes, or better yet create list of your successes regardless how big or
small – success is success, size has no relevance. It is understandable that
you may feel awkward to bring light to your past achievements, but they have
the power to refresh your thinking and give you a boost in your confidence.
Reflect some of your memories with a friend or loved one that shared your
experience, ask them what they thought and from their own words, you will hear
wonderful praise and encouragement that will propel you to continue with your
current efforts because you have succeeded before and you will succeed again.
Keep your written list with you, as a helpful reminder when you feel you are
being attacked by the debilitating self-doubt.
You are aware that many times you become your worst enemy
instead of being your best friend. Besides God, nobody knows you as well as you
do. You do deserve to treat yourself better. You have your whole life ahead of
you and you get to spend that life with you. Become better acquainted with
yourself. If you always demonstrate your love and care to others, then you
ought to be giving yourself the same considerations. You are just as worthy as
anyone else to receive love, compassion, respect and so much more and you can
give these to yourself Beautiful Ones. Give yourself more credit and the
permission to keep trying, learning where any error may have been created and
taking that knowledge and applying it into new steps for a different result.
Comprehend the fact that self-doubt is a normal part of your life but in time
and with practice you will learn how to effectively dissolve its clutches and
live in comfort of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Remember Beautiful
Ones, any doubt you have, is really your thoughts created by fear. There is
always a possibility of something going wrong, but there is also the same
possibility that your efforts will bring about a successful conclusion. But if
you give up or never begin to try you willingly give up your power and
capability to improve and enhance your life in all areas.
We ask you to think Beautiful Ones of a time where you
felt you were hanging from the last part of the rope, feeling heavy with
despair and thinking things were not going to work out, but gradually things
did improve if only slightly. The more you are able to recall such times, the
more proof you give yourself that you have met with success when you thought
there was no more hope left. Hope doesn’t become exhausted and leaves, Hope is
within you always. During those moments when you thought you weren’t going to
move any further and things were going to stay exactly as they were, you were
given important information and you grew with that knowledge understanding from
deep within that a lesson was learned and you became much wiser for your
participation in it.
Even during the times where you felt you were suffering,
you were learning how to cope, persevere and to be tolerant. During these
times, your patience, trust and faith is often tested and it is through such
experiences that you develop a higher sense of yourself that has the ability
and potential to boost your confidence. Without those challenges you would not
have learned what you have. You don’t grow and develop yourself through only
positive experiences, who you are today is a balance of dealing with difficult
and easy challenges. Thanks to your challenges you are able to understand more of
your interconnectedness with others around this fine world. Have faith in
yourself Beautiful Ones, and remember no matter how difficult your current
situation may seem at the moment, you are gaining essential knowledge that will
help you during future times. Your learning is none-stop, it continues even
when you think it is not. We do encourage you to become more aware and
recognize what you have learned so far and congratulate yourself for how far
you have come. All that you have learned from all your yesterdays have brought
you to where you are today. You have climbed many hurdles and became that much
wiser and stronger as a result.
There is always room to try and do better to bring in
more good and positive thought forms and energy. You only have to realize the
importance of reducing your self-doubt through self-knowledge that helps to
renew your faith and trust in yourself. By discovering real and concrete facts
about yourself you will come to the conclusion that YES you can accomplish
anything you set your heart and soul on. It is not an abstract notion but
truth. You always had this personal power and it is up to you to put it to use
positively and with faith.
Even if you turn to another dear soul for advice, even if
they are called experts, remember they too are human and they are offering
their perception, they also have the ability to not know everything. And they
definitely do not know everything about you. What they can do is offer sound
suggestions for you to try, but it is you that must resonate with what they are
offering before you attempt their suggestions. Just because they are experts in
something doesn’t mean you have to go with every word they share. What they
share must also go with how you already think and feel when there is no self-doubt
or fear clouding your mind. Even the ones, who are said to be experts, are
still learning. Learning is continual, it doesn’t stop for anyone and it is
very powerful.
You are your own expert. From your experiences, the ups
and downs you have weathered, you know what it is you want and what you don’t.
Even if right now you have a bit of uncertainty, you still have a good idea of
what it is you want, you just need positive encouragement to reinforce trust
and faith in yourself. No matter what down side you are thinking there is
always an upside and it’s important to focus more on the upside. Allow the
downside to teach you where you don’t want to go or to become. If self-doubt is
telling you can’t do something, show yourself that you can. Become not only your
own motivator, but become your best friend. Know that no matter what you apply
all your focused effort on will eventually work out successfully. Stop rushing,
take your time and give yourself the love you definitely deserve. No matter how
cloudy your day may be, without a doubt it will always get better, and that my
Beautiful Ones is Faith working with you, never against you.
And so it is…
I AM Archeia Lady Faith through Julie Miller
http://spiritualnetworks.com/blog/107080/give-yourself-the-love-you-deserve/
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